Sometimes I would like to join in on the "fits" or even just pull all my hair out to deal with all the screaming! So I was doing some research on how US parents should handle the situation, they said the best way is "to avoid the tantrums all together" and that kids have "tantrums because of the lack of attention". I could agree on the second statement, but not so much the first, my kids are so random with their tantrums.
My daughter once cried an hour in her car seat all because she wanted out and didn't get her way, she was not wet ( 15months), she had already ate, and had her nap already ( I know I should had taken the trip while she was napping). Another time, my son knocked all the candy off the shelves because he couldn't have one, what do we as parents do in those embarrassing times? My mom said spanking him, but I'm not into hitting my kids, maybe a tap on the hand, but even that don't work anymore, tried the corner (can't really put them in a a corner at Wall-Mart) .
So after reading "the happy toddler on the block" book, I've learned a thing or two, kids act-up the most if we are constantly saying, there already losing throughout their days because their smaller, slower, and don't get a say in what goes on. So I started giving them more say in the activities we do throughout our days, i.e. picking between the park or the pool, graft or arts, and it has made a world of a difference, their now better able to deal with that "no candy" as we go to checkout :).
My daughter once cried an hour in her car seat all because she wanted out and didn't get her way, she was not wet ( 15months), she had already ate, and had her nap already ( I know I should had taken the trip while she was napping). Another time, my son knocked all the candy off the shelves because he couldn't have one, what do we as parents do in those embarrassing times? My mom said spanking him, but I'm not into hitting my kids, maybe a tap on the hand, but even that don't work anymore, tried the corner (can't really put them in a a corner at Wall-Mart) .
So after reading "the happy toddler on the block" book, I've learned a thing or two, kids act-up the most if we are constantly saying, there already losing throughout their days because their smaller, slower, and don't get a say in what goes on. So I started giving them more say in the activities we do throughout our days, i.e. picking between the park or the pool, graft or arts, and it has made a world of a difference, their now better able to deal with that "no candy" as we go to checkout :).
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